"THE TOE-NAIL SYNDROME"

UNRESOLVED STRESS - "THE TOE-NAIL SYNDROME"

Unresolved stress leads to road rage, work rage, domestic abuse (verbal and physical) and frustration. The overload of this stress is the direct problem.

In most cases, where the anger is directed is not the true source of the problem. For example:
I CALL THIS "THE TOE-NAIL SYNDROME"

A couple are laying in bed at night. By accident (he or she) brushes her toe nail on the leg of her partner. Her partner lunges up in bed and starts screaming and using profanity directed towards her. He's blaming her for his unhappiness at work and general frustration with his life. She is stunned! What has she done to create such "rage" in her partner. Surely, it cannot be just a scratch from her toe nail?
The truth is that he has displaced (missplaced) his unresolved anger and unhappiness and placed it in a toe nail. He is on overload and just like a pressure cooker.....he had to let off stream.
Anger is a learned response and can be unlearned and relearned through education, awareness, association and practice.

KAREN GOLOB, CCDC, CH
CERTIFIED ANGER MANAGEMENT COUNSELOR
CERTIFIED CHEMICAL DEPENDENCY COUNSELOR
310-276-1342
BEVERLY HILLS CALIFORNIA
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Name:Karen Golob
Location:Beverly Hills,, California, United States
I am Certified as an Anger Management Facilitator, as well as a Facilitator of Executive Coaching. My Certification as a Chemical Dependency Counselor has given me many years of Professional experience working with clients who have Addictions such as Smoking, Drugs, Alcohol and other dependencies. For over 15 years I have been Certified in Clinical and Medical Hypnotherapy. My expertise in this field is a perfect adjunct to my Anger Management and Chemical Dependency profession, as Stress Reduction is a major part of learning how to cope with anger as well as detoxing from drugs and alcohol. Learning how to use self-hypnosis techniques, progressive relaxation and guided imagery has proven to be extremely beneficial in calming down aggression, anxiety, withdrawals, cravings and stress-induced reactions to everyday life's situation.
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FEAR BASED AGGRESSION

FEAR BASED AGGRESSION

Why did my dog (yellow labrador) suddenly become aggressive?

This breed is trained as seeing eye dogs, as a result of their friendly temperment and ability to adapt to people and places.

Moving into a different enviornment....fear of new surroundings....people coming into his space that he hadn't met before. Fear of abandonment in his new backyard.

How can we apply this to our human way of living and can this cause us to become aggressive, also?

The answer is yes.....humans also can become aggressive when they are fearful. It is a way someone shows power over situations that they are unfamiliar with. It is a way someone can hide their unability to understand what they are feeling and then express that lack of understanding by intimidation. Fear can manifest itself in violent and physical, as well as emotional abuse.

Think of what you are afraid of....then ask yourself, "Do I act angry or aggressive when I am afraid?"

Learn to say to yourself, " What is it that I am fearing?" Then take a "TIME OUT!" Leave the scene.....Take several Deep Breaths. Think of the consequences. If you find yourself beginning to think about acting aggressively, know that it's o.k. to feel unsure of yourself. It's better to calm down your thoughts before you communicate words and actions that you will regret later.

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